因反對而反對的人是可悲的,因為他等於是在向世界宣稱他的視野多狹隘和他的智慧有多不足。
Today, my BFF just told me that she fell in love with a guy. Well, actually, I have just found out that before she told me since we have been BFF for at least 15 years. Of course I can sense the sign of love of her. She told me that she has no self-confidence. She doubts that she can have that guy's love. Then I just told her: "You deserve better." Her situation reminds me of my memory of falling in love. I just figured out some truth of love which is listed as below:
1. Love should be happy rather than tiresome. --> We should not lose ourselves because of falling in love with someone. Furthermore, we should find someone who can make us happy, but not someone who makes us change our personalities to "fit" them. 2. If your love goes wrong, just give it up bravely. --> We always imagine that if we lose our lovers, then we will lose our future even the whole world. However, things are always far from our imagination. Fortune and misfortune come inevitably and abruptly. We can not foresee them. What we can do is merely to accept them. That is, although you lose your lover's love now, it does not mean that you will lose happiness forever; on the other hand, if you have your lover's love now, it does not mean that you can "live happily ever after." 3. Do not change yourself because of someone else. --> If your lover cannot accept who you are, just leave him/her. Do not change yourself to meet his/her expectation. Do not change your personalities because of someone else except your personalities will hurt other people. That is, if your shoes do not fit your feet, change your shoes rather than "cut off your feet" to fit the shoes. 4. No one belongs to anyone. --> We are all individual. We should not try to control or "own" anyone even our children. People born to be free. If we keep control or send "emotional blackmails" to our lovers, they will freak out and leave us someday. The thing is that we only own ourselves. Other people is just a company of our lives. Take the way of raising children for example, most of parents raise their children as their "object" rather than a "subject." This is a making process of "mother's boys" and "father's girls," who are the most annoying creature in the world. So, let's merely control our own business, and let other people go. What we should do is just to concern about them but not control them. 5. Finally, believe that we deserve better. --> If we meet someone who does not appreciate us. We should just be away from them, and believe that we deserve better. We should not lose our self-confidence because what other people said or did. Everyone is special. We should treasure ourselves because we worth it. I really hope that everyone can have a mature and happy relationship. Hope this article can help someone who is losing their way in love. Works Cited Forward, Susan. Emotional Blackmail. New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1997. Print. |
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